This might shock you, but I didn’t realize biblical womanhood applied to my singleness until after I got married. There’s no invisible line you cross where, once you say “I do,” you suddenly become a woman of God.
But I didn’t know that—until now. So to all the single women, hear me out. I’m not here to tell you how to live your life, but to help you live the rest of it better. You have the chance to walk into marriage and motherhood more grounded in Christ than some of us did—because you’re getting wisdom from the other side of singleness.
What does biblical womanhood look like when you’re single?
The same as it does for any godly woman—because your identity isn’t found in your relationship status, but in Christ. Whether you’re a college student, building your career, or newly married, your identity as a woman of God is rooted in who He says you are—not in what stage of life you’re in.
Let’s get real. Marriage doesn’t make you godly. A wedding ring won’t magically grow your character. That work starts now.
Titus 2 gives us a framework for biblical womanhood—self-control, kindness, purity, modesty, and care for your home. Peter reminds us that godly women are adorned with the inner person of the heart, not outward beauty. And Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7 that the unmarried woman should be devoted to the things of the Lord.
That means you don’t wait to become a godly woman. You are called to live it out now.
Don’t Learn the Hard Way
Single ladies, you’re going to learn one of three ways. I know this because I’ve taken wise instruction and have also had a hard knock here and there. Trust me when I tell you the hard knocks are not where the best lessons are learned. You will learn:
- Instruction – the wisest, most pain-free route.
- The Hard Way – full of regret and consequences.
- Experience – sometimes necessary, but avoidable pain if you listen to those who’ve gone before.
So be coachable. Listen to mentors who are a step ahead. Don’t wait until you’re deep in a bad relationship to wish you had.
Your Standards Matter
I used to love watching The Bachelor. It had the three D’s every young, single woman seemed to fall for—drama, deceit, and it was just plain dumb. But really, what do you expect from a culture that doesn’t hold to biblical standards for dating?
Culture might tell you to chase charm and chemistry. But biblical manhood looks different—it’s defined by spiritual maturity, self-control, integrity, and godliness. You’ll find these traits in Titus 2 too.
If you’re only drawn to worldly qualities, it might be time to re-evaluate your standards. I’ve seen too many Christian women invest years in guys who have no interest in growing in Christ. They pray, wait, hope he’ll change. But here’s the truth: if he won’t change for God, he won’t change for you.
You know deep down when a guy isn’t right. God’s faithful to show red flags early, but the longer you ignore them, the harder it is to walk away. Don’t awaken love before it pleases (Song of Solomon 8:4). Let God define what’s beautiful—and wait for someone who reflects His heart.
Marriage Prep Starts Now
You don’t wait until you’re married to prepare for marriage. You prepare now. That means developing the kind of character you want to bring into a future relationship.
I share marriage tips online not just for wives, but for women like you who want to prepare wisely. Learn from others. Get advice from people who are actually married—not from influencers who’ve never been in the trenches of covenant commitment.
And be patient. Desperation leads to compromise. I tell my son (he’s 22) not to get desperate. Have standards. If someone doesn’t meet them, don’t entertain the relationship.
Marriage is a blessing, but it’s not the goal. Christlikeness is. So become the woman who honors God in singleness and you’ll carry that strength into whatever role He calls you to next.
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